Question to change your life:

What is the dream that you've been avoiding?

"Some people die at 25 and aren't buried until 75." - Benjamin Franklin

On May 9, 2020, I had an idea.

At the time, I had spent the prior seven years climbing up a default mountain that I had blindly accepted as my own—narrowly, obsessively focused on speed, on getting to the top of that mountain as fast as possible.

But on that day in May, while out on a walk, I had an idea: I was going to be a writer.

To be clear, this idea made no sense. I worked in finance, I had a good job, I had a good situation.

But the worst thing in the world isn't being on a bad path.

The worst thing in the world is being on a good path that isn't yours.

The bad path screams at you every single day to get off, to change course. It's obvious. The good path that isn't yours is much more challenging. There are plenty of reasons to stay, so most will do just that.

In that moment, back from my walk, suddenly obsessed with this idea, I sat on the floor of my garage and started writing.

My first tweet went out to an audience of 500 followers that day.

4.5 years later, I get to say something I've dreamed about for my entire life:

My first book, The 5 Types of Wealth, is officially an instant New York Times Bestseller.

This is not a celebration of me. This is a celebration of a single realization:

You can just do things.

There was no path, there was no plan, there was no strategy. I had a dream, and I just started. Slowly, then all at once. The ancient poet Rumi once wrote, "As you start to walk on the way, the way appears."

What is your dream? What is that thing that you've always wanted to do but have been too scared to start?

Remember: Dreams, when avoided, become regrets.

Well, here's your sign from the universe: Start walking.

P.S. This is a movement and we're still in the prologue. Order your copy of the book (on sale right now!) and start building the life of your dreams today. Join us.

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Quote on direction over speed:

"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop." - Confucius

Never bet against the person who just keeps showing up.

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Framework for life transformation:

Be, Do, Have

A few weeks ago, a dear friend told me about a brilliant mental model from the Hoffman Institute for creating transformation:

It's called Be, Do, Have.

The traditional line of thinking is Have, Do, Be:

• I need to have X.
• Then I can do Y.
• Then I will be Z.

A classic example: I need to have more money and fancy things, then I can do the things I want, then I'll be fulfilled.

The reality: The conditional approach—if I have X, then I'll be Y—never works.

Be, Do, Have flips this traditional thinking on its head:

• I will be Z.
• Then I can do Y.
• Then I will have X.

In the context of our example: I will embody the state of being of a fulfilled person, then I can do the actions of a fulfilled person, then I will have the things I desire.

This model focuses on the internal, rather than the external, and centers on your identity in the present, rather than placing it in the future. It is a reminder of your control over your world.

It brings to mind one of my favorite quotes:

"Don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come." - Mario Quintana

Something I’ve come to believe: The things you want most in life will come to you, but only when you’re ready for them.

Be, Do, Have: Mend your garden and the butterflies will come.

An important reminder:

I recently came across this beautiful passage:

"Farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant. If they watch every cloud, they never harvest." - Ecclesiastes 11:4

There’s no such thing as a perfect moment.

There are just moments—and your actions determine the outcomes.

Go make those moments perfect through your actions.

The ultimate life hack:

Find a partner (or friend) who believes in you more than you believe in yourself.

Here's a text message conversation with my wife after I found out the news about my book.

Everyone tells you to believe in yourself, but there are times in life when it's hard to do that. Maybe you haven't generated the necessary evidence to establish that belief, or maybe you're just feeling stuck in the darkness.

In those moments, having one person who believes in you—who gives you permission, who taps you in—is all you need to push your way through.

Find that person. Cherish them. Be that person to someone else.